Saturday 9: You’re My Best Friend
1. Outside of your romantic life, do you currently have a best friend?
If I had to choose one person, I’d say it’s Cousin O’Cool – I think I’ve mentioned this before but despite my being eighteen years her senior, she is like my big sister. She’s smart, wise, funny and tells it like it is to me. If I were doing something seriously dumbass, she’d be the one to call me on it. (And I’d listen.) I can whine to her, be 12 with her and generally just be myself with her and that is a good feeling. We were close when she was little (she was like my own child) and then went our separate ways while she was in college and have since come back to being close again. We share a history and I know I could trust her with my secrets. (Plus, she’s going to let me call her baby Bella if I want. Just not in front of Duty or he’ll wig the hell out!)
2. Regarding your future, what is the best thing you could hope for?
That I retain my amazingly good health until my last day. I’ve been blessed with a strong constitution and rarely get sick. I think I take it for granted though I try not to. It’s my wish to keep that health as long as I can.
3. Have you ever helped out a friend with basic needs, like rent or food? If yes. what did you do?
Yes, I have. I prefer to do it on the downlow because it’s not something that I want to draw attention to. When Spirit nudges me, I respond. Here’s my most vivid example:
I often visited my mom in the nursing home and on sunny days would wheel her outside to get some fresh air. This one day I took her outside and she asked me to go to CVS and get her something. Odd request but she just wanted to sit outside while I ran the errand. On my way to the store, there was this young woman standing on the median strip by the light with a sign asking for money. She looked so … exhausted and sad. Everything about her screamed the word DEFEATED to me. It was a warm day so I ran into the store, got mom’s stuff plus a big bottle of water for this woman and some extra cash. I put the stuff in the car and then walked right over to her, with arms wide open and just hugged her for about five minutes in the middle of all this traffic going up and down the road. She cried in my arms, told me she and her kids were in a shelter from a domestic abuse situation. I just held her for as long as she needed me to. Gave her the money, gave her the water and told her she’d be okay. She pulled herself together, said thank you and I went back to my mom. My Guides told me not to speak of the event and it was three years before I was given the okay to mention it.
I know, as sure as my butt is on this couch, that I was sent there, at that moment, to do that work. I didn’t even know what I was going to do … I didn’t plan to hug her or anything. I just listened and acted. My Guides know that I will do that so when stuff like that happens, I just go with it and trust that I am where I need to be.
4. If they re-instituted the draft (for both genders and your were of age) would you go, or would find some way out of it?
I don’t know that I’d have anything to offer but I’d get ordained and go as a minister. Helping people is what I do best.
5. Tell us one thing you wish you hadn’t let yourself do.
Oh for fuck’s sake. ONE THING? ONE? THING? heh I wish I had not gained back the weight after I did the Master Cleanse last year. I feel bloaty and fat and very unhappy in my body.
6. Tell us about the last time you bragged.
I don’t like to brag but I’ll say yesterday when I congratulated myself right here on this blog for making it to the gym five days in a row.
7. What area are you wisest in?
I loved Gal’s answer and it seems to fit: “Other people’s lives. I’m a savant, able to solve everyone’s problems but my own.” THIS. in spades. Also, I’m really good at conversing with Spirit Guides. REALLY GOOD at it. heh
8. Tell us about something that happened that at the time made you “full of yourself”.
I think finishing the Master Cleanse last year (12 days of it!) and losing 15 pounds made me feel as if I could conquer the world.
9. Has there ever been a time that you wanted to try something in the bedroom, but were afraid to ask?
Nah. Back in the day, I was pretty vocal about stuff.
Love your answer to the one about the lady by CVS. Very moving. And I wonder if it’s the angels I hear. Because, working in the city, I pass many people asking for change every day. Some I don’t much notice, some I’m sure are too hostile to interact with, and others touch me sooo deeply. “My” homeless guy in front of McDonald’s, the old lady who sells Streetwise between the train stations … For some reason, just looking at them feels like someone has reached in and put a hand in my gut.
Congrats on the gym visits :)
Have a great Saturday!