Yeah yeah yeah … we knew it right? McTizz is history although not by his own hand. He showed up (dammit) and Bombastic Big Boss decided that it wouldn’t work out with me being in charge and him under me (so to speak because … eww!!) and let him go with a month’s pay.
All snark aside, I really don’t like to see anyone get booted from a job, even when they have asked for it. And today was a yukky vibe day because before he was let go, he told me he thought I betrayed him and that I was a hypocrite. Not words I want to attribute to myself. I struggled inside myself all last week about how to handle this. Should I hip him to the fact that he was being watched and not in a good way? Should I nudge him and say “Stop goofing off”? I really wasn’t sure how to handle it. I mean, he is 48. Don’t you think he’d know better? And most especially so if he had a hard time finding a job for reasons I shan’t go into here. That’s what puzzled me. He needed this job. Yet, he was singularly unmotivated to step up to the plate. I don’t get that at all.
After some deep thought and chat with Duty and GRE, I decided to just step back and allow whatever was to happen, happen. I honor his free will and acknowledge that he choose the outcome. Because in things that matter, you can’t have your cake and eat it, too. If you need the job, act like it.
So, yeah. It was hard to hear him paint me with the brush of blame but I listened to what he said, knew where it was coming from, and asked him to look at what part he played in all this. I don’t think he will, honestly. But it’s my belief that the universe offers lessons and when you don’t get them, they bring it on more forcefully so that you DO get it. Tizz got a big, hard lesson today. I hope he grows and learns from it. Truly. Despite my ranting here, I felt for the guy, even if his life was a mess of his own making. I’m a mushy chick that way. So, my lesson was in how to step back when I had to and step forward when I was called.
And on we go, rearranging filing cabinets, printing out documents, solving problems and much more. But the days of McTizz are over. Long live Boss McTizzypants.
We’re McTizz-less? Oh…how sad is that? Well it sounds like he did the royal tizzy by coming to you and blaming you for his own misgivings and shortcomings.
Some people just never grow up and it is so very sad (and the pathetic kind of sad).
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us! Haha!
Congrats on the job promotion, Lisa! And I echo the others comments by saying you handled yourself like a real lady. I admire that!
I admire you! You are awesome. You are an excellent teacher in life.
Wow, Lisa, I bow down to you, truly. I know I could not have handled this kind of situation with such dignity and grace. Either I would have gotten angry and reamed into the guy or I would have held my breath, but with none of the compassion that you have inside. I would have been angry inside. You struck the perfect balance. And, wow, i really admire you. You have set such an example for me. And I *know* that I am going to encounter situations like this, over and over again. The Uni will continue to send them to me so that *I learn how to respond in situations like this.
You’ve set a high example for me. And I thank the Uni for putting people like you into my life and teaching me the lessons I need to learn. Much humility and admiration.
-A
Ah man. That sucks. Its such a conundrum. We run our agency with a total “heads up, you are screwing up” as opposed to the watching for screw ups then dropping the bomb just to avoid that funky vibe thing. I dont know what I would do if that was not the case and I had to figure out what to do. On the one hand Ive seen our policy help out people who really do a good job but are making bad choices for one reason or another (a la mctizzy pants) on the other hand, for whatever reason he had difficulty finding a job, this is probaby a pattern that nothing you could have done would have changed. Wipe the dust from your shoes and move on buddy. I know you are going to be great on this part of your path!
Well, this was a lesson for you , as well. Even if you had told him that he actions were not professional he would not have listened. He was just projecting his anger to you. And, you did not take the bait. YEAH! Hopefully, he will learn what he needs to learn before a brick wall falls on his head.