(sobs) So the only time Duty checks in on casa de Snark is when he’s traveling. I’m not sure why. Like, does he think I’m gonna be posting about all my boyfriends and the fun stuff I do with them on here? I mean and c’mon … isn’t that what journals are for? LOL
He read my Thursday 13 entry about why I’m ELATED, OVERJOYED and just downright GIDDY over RG leaving and told me I sounded rather “heartless”. I was stunned. PiK managed to put it into context for me so I understood it but I’d like to hear from my faithful readers (that’s you, CrazedOne, Crse , Margie, and of course, Anita) as to whether you think I’m a cruel, heartless bitch. Oh, wait. He didn’t say cruel or bitch … so, let’s go with the heartless part. I’m not, am I? (Knows the answer and knows y’all do, too!)
RG UPDATE: He’s gone! Woo Hoo! I can now pee with the door open if I wanna. I can dance around nekkid (if I wanna) and I can walk by the tv room and not hear any noise at all (and oh yeah, I wanna!!) I wrote him a goodbye note that thanked him for all the nice things he’s done to make our house prettier (he stripped the wallpaper from the bathroom and painted it, he built shelves up in our bedroom which I LOVE, he built Duty a nifty counter thingy for the garage and he built Lucie a big litter box so she wouldn’t pee (so much) on the plastic. I know if we had more projects, he would have done them gladly. I also wrote that I would wrap him in a blanket of white light for love and protection and to remember that his choices MAKE his life so try to make good ones. That’s not all that heartless, is it?
Is there a 12 step group for buying baby clothes? Because I’m thinking I need to start attending meetings posthaste. I went to Kohl’s yesterday to buy a gift card and came away with too much stuff (most of it for me, I admit). However, I had to FORCE myself to get out of the baby clothes section. The Cousin ‘O Cool’s baby isn’t due until July and already I’ve bought all kinds of things for him. God help me when PiK has babies and I get to be the official grandmother (how f’ing cool is that, I ask you??). I better start saving money NOW for it. Cousin ‘O Love said savings bonds would be a good thing to get in lieu of clothes and I said “OH HELL NO!” – that’s no fun at all. Bitty little baby slippers? Oh yes. This makes us tres happy. Let the parents worry about college, I say. As unofficial auntie of Baby ‘O Cool, I get to buy cute stuff and give love and that’s it. Perhaps as a grandmother I will have more responsibility for the future of said grandbaby but for now, let me have my baby clothes buying addiction. After all, I didn’t get to do that first hand and it’s either this or continue to buy more books. (Yes, I will probably continue to do that as well so just shut up. Please.)
I’m off to Baltimore today for Cousin ‘O Cool’s sister’s birthday. I don’t think I’ve given this cousin an official “Cousin O’Something” nickname. Anyone wanna help a chick out? Cousin ‘O Flair? Cousin ‘O Love? Bueller? There’s got to be the right nickname for her out there.
Okay … enough rambling. Remember to tell me I’m not heartless, mmmkay?
NEVER heartless! Boundries are healthy and necessary, lest we have feet prints on our backs from being walked on.
Must be going around. Men and mouths. I have been called selfish several times, lately. Grrr… But this is about you, not me!
I think everyone has told you good stuff. You are not heartless, you are being truthful w. how you feel. This couch mate has put a hurting on you. Your home needs to be your sanctuary and a place where you recharge. And, it has not. Another one of the many reasons you feel like you don’t have any creatiivity. I know you are sending him off surrounded in Light.
I will clear your house if you want. Send me your acutal address by email and it will be that much stronger.
It’s all good, Sistah Love!
(My blog has been acting up lately. And, I thought I did so well going thru Merc. Retrograde. Now the shadow is getting me. Are you reading the Cosmic Path? This week is kick ass kind of week. Perferct time to send him out and get clear on what you want)!
Ah ha, a Sofa Mate. I had a few of those from time to time. Some did the right thing, respected the space and appreciated the helping hand up. But I had a few that I threw a party after they left. Not that they didn’t do nice things… but it’s so cool to have your own place back.
For the record, no – you are definitely not heartless. Relieved and free. I’m sure you wish for him the best and a good foot to step out and go forth forward. But that’s up to him. In the six months he’s been there he could have also saved money and done lots of improving for himself. If he did or didn’t… it was his opportunity. One that you and Duty afforded to him.
To be heartless and senseless is surely not a Snarky Trait.
PiK said it very well.
You are in no way shape or form heartless.
I don’t think Duty meant it like you are taking it.
Somewhere there is a miscomunication there.
Somone who is heartless wouldn’t care – at all.
and PiK is correct – you care enought to worry.
I think your heartFULL. You take in strangers everyday
(like me) who then give you our love as well.
When Duty comesome – go out for dinner and lay
your hurt on the table – I am possitive he will
appologise some thing like – “I didn’t mean it that way…”
Lots of hugs – Your California Jennifer
I agree with PiK and crse – they said it better than I could have/did.
Few questions for ya:
Would a heartless person write him a goodbye note?
Would a heartless person put energy into surronding him in love and light and sending him many blessings for better choices and an all around better life?
Would a heartless person still be pondering this after…. what 3 days now?
Would a heartless person have needed this BIG push from the Universe to finally draw the line of him leaving after 6 months(and many headaches)?
Would a heartless person be hurt that someone called them heartless?
Would a heartless person be the Momma of Love?
No, No, No… and ummmm NO….
You are all heart and love. You do have a snarky edge that comes out to bite the occasional passerby (usually very well deserved!… and you probably do it in the most polite way possible teehee). But heartless…. never.
You live… work… breathe… heal…. everything from your heart center momma. If more people used their heart as much as you… the world would be a much better place. You are full of love, nurturing, and caring.
You helped RG as much (and more) as you could. I hope he learned something from all the kindness you and Duty showed to him. I wish him well and send him love and light. (Also should be noted here that I wouldn’t be sending him love and light if a certain completely WARM hearted person wasn’t such a great example for me).
Suggestion: Let this go to the round table. I know it hurt your feelings, but I don’t think it was meant in the way that it means to you. (we already talked this part of the topic through so you know what I mean)
I love you bunches!
PiK
Heartless? No. Not at all. I’m not saying RG didn’t do wonderful things for you and Duty, but he also over-stepped some major boundaries. Borrowing a car without asking, much less without a driver’s license (and was he intoxicated, too, while driving it?), is just not right. And he did it more than once, right?
Also, hosting non-family for 6 months is a pretty long time! It’s one thing to let someone stay with you for a few weeks while they get back up on their feet, but half a year is more than generous, in my book, it’s downright saintly.
You acknowledged the good in RG while also realizing that there were also some serious problems to address. It’s not like you said kicked him to the curb, then asked you to chip in with rent after you asked him to leave! That might have been a little mean (but only a little), but you didn’t even do that.
I think you’ve been quite generous and thoughtful.
Ok maybe im not the best person to ask, but I totally didnt think it was heartless. I think he is lucky you dont press charges/ I think that the sending off in a bath of white light was above and beyond. Enjoy my friend.