Fun stuff for a Sunday …
What are “Unconscious Mutterings“? There’s a happy little meme floating around where she posts 10 words and you write the first thing that comes into your mind. So, here we go:
- Acoustic :: guitar
- Sanity :: lack thereof, somedays
- Mambo :: lessons
- Session :: timed out
- Hound :: dog
- Cat :: love
- Coward :: integrity
- Trunk :: all that junk inside your …
- Hold me :: Thrill me
- Psychological :: all about the “why”
Anyway, thanks for the nice comments on my 13 Italy pics. I’ve got more, of course, and will load them up on a webpage soon. Results of the audit were pretty good, all considered. Nothing egregious and I am SOOO glad I didn’t cancel my trip for it. The thought did cross my mind given that all kinds of weird shit was coming down on me that week but as you know, I went. And I will never regret that.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the word “integrity” and its meaning in my life. Dictionary.com defines it thusly: adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty. What does it mean to live my life in integrity? As Regina once counseled, it means to live your life acting and speaking so that you have no regrets about what you did or said. Pretty tough, isn’t it? I did many things in my youth for which I still feel regret. For example, the time I talked poorly about a girl in high school named Tina and tore her down something fierce when her only desire was to fit in and be a part of the group I was with. I remember shutting my locker door to see her standing on the other side of it, crying. And I just walked away. That was almost 30 years ago and yet I still remember it vividly. It’s all a part of learning and growing, I know. Perhaps when I am 66, I will look back at my behavior now and be just as appalled (although I truly hope not). To have integrity, to me, means being accountable for your words and actions. And it’s something I work toward each day.
We all have regrets. They equal learning lessons. If you can learn from it you can move on, I think.
I love the mutterings meme. FUN!
Geez, I just recently posted a series about integrity and/or lack of it on my blog. Maybe it’s in the air. I wondered if you had tried to contact Tina too. I don’t know if it’s lots of 12 step programs or years of therapy but it’s the best what I know to quiet those regrets. I can’t speak for you at 66 or myself either because I’m not there yet but I can say that once I figured out who I was and that living true to my values was the key to being happy, I’ve had no regrets. And that’s been for a good solid 20 years or so.
I dont know if this will help buddy, but working in mental health I run into scenarios of regret and amends all the time and I can tell you, about 99% of the time, in these interpersonal situations, the person with the regret is the one its impacted the most. Have you thought of getting in touch with Tina? For your peace of mind maybe? Either way, Im stealing this meme!
I dont know if this will help buddy, but working in mental health I run into scenarios of regret and amends all the time and I can tell you, about 99% of the time, in these interpersonal situations, the person with the regret is the one its impacted the most. Have you thought of getting in touch with Tina? For your peace of mind maybe? Either way, Im stealing this meme!