Ch-ch-ch-changes

Saturday 9: Changes

1. Tell us about one thing that you’d change about yourself if you could.
I would be much less cluttery. As I mentioned, I fear that I might one day descend into Hoarder category (and if so, a divorce would be imminent. Duty freaks now as it is.) When I start to declutter, I get spazzy and overwhelmed and just stop. I should try that timer thingy Flylady suggested – doing it in doses of 10-15 minutes. Just declutter away until the timer rings and then stop. That way, you don’t have a lot of time to get overwhelmed. Anyone wanna try with me?

2. Mattel decides to make a Barbie-like (or Ken-like) doll of you — what would be the most important accessory or accessories they would absolutely have to package you with in order to portray your lifestyle?
I had to laugh at this one. Look at the header on the blog for the answer: cats, coffee, laptop and books. That’s it. I’m a happy girl.

3. Hey, do you like surprises? If yes, what kinds?
I like the kinds that have gifts attached to them and not-so-much the bad news ones.

4. What was the last snail mail that you received that was significant?
My aunt Janet writes me letters from time to time (and I write her back) and since she doesn’t have a computer, she sends me snail mail. I love it.

5. If you could pick out a brand new nickname for yourself, what would you choose and why?
I have lots of them now so not sure I’d want a new one. Snooks might be cute. Or else Wild Woman. (note that I am not at all the latter but will be in my next life)

6. John Edward’s mistress was on Oprah this past Thursday. She stated that no third person can break up a marriage, so it had to be broken before the two started doing the nasty. Do you buy that?
I think it’s a mix of lots of things. I feel that cracks in any relationship open the doors for all kinds of things to come in. If a crack is not there, no outside force can create one. Three of my cousins have really strong marriages (28 years, 27 years and Cousin o’Cool has been with her now husband for 14 years) and I honestly don’t think someone could break into them. (I could be wrong but this is my perception.) But if there is dissatisfaction or needs that are not being met, that creates that space for other energy.

As a young woman, I spent much time trying to coerce men out of their relationships with others. I am not proud of that fact at all. It was some weird, funky dynamic where I wanted to “win” someone. I didn’t much think of the other party involved, alas. Having entirely too fluid boundaries was a part of that. Wanting desperately for someone to love me was a bigger part of that. I understand better now the heartache doing something like that causes. With age comes wisdom.

7. Do you think it is okay to keep secrets from your s/o?
I wonder what it would be like to be completely and totally open to someone. I don’t think I have ever, ever done that. Not sure why. With regard to the question, like many things, it’s a matter of what is comfortable and what works for the relationship. Keeping big secrets? Probably not the best thing to create intimacy.

8. Have you ever played Truth or Dare? If yes, what’s the weirdest dare that you did?
I think I have but don’t really recall.

9. What, in hindsight, the stupidest thing that you have ever done?
I totally could not quantify that because I have done A LOT of stupid-ass things in my day. And I will continue to do them, I’m sure. The one that pops to mind was talking smack about a girl in high school and why I was NOT going to invite her to my party and then turning around to find her right there – she had been behind me the whole time I was ranting. I felt horrible and to this day, I feel very bad about saying it.