I’m pretty sure this is #398 in an endless series of my rants. I’d post them on FB but it’d be one of those posts people say “Does she have to share every damn thing?” and yeah, that’s what blogs are for, amirite?
And now, things up with which I shall not put!
1) Text speak: for the love of all that is fucking holy, please stop this. PLEASE. I just saw someone post this as a comment on FB and it just set me off. “Hope U R back on ur feet soon.” Would 6 more letters have saved them that much time? Is there a fee for how many letters you can use in a sentence? It just irks the shit out of me to see this and makes me feel like the entire civilized world is in a shit hole. (It is, but not because of text speak.) And do not even get me started on this sort of thing on church signs. I see that all the time over here and I want to send them a letter letting them know that it doesn’t make them look cooler or more hip to do that. One said “All R Welcome.” NO! NO! NO! (I rarely get this fired up unless it’s political or woo but this really bugs me. Is it my Catholic school education or is it my soul reverence for the written word? Not sure but it really makes me want to take a chainsaw to those signs.)
2. STOP using biblical references to “back up” your hatred and judgement. STOP IT. If you choose to believe that being gay is shameful and sinful and all that BS, well, first you might want to take the plank out of your own eye (I’m just sayin’, because SOMETHING is going on there inside you that feels icky that you don’t want to face) but second, who are you to judge someone else’s choice in matters of that nature (and many others)?
If someone is “sinning”, well, that’s between them and God, isn’t it? We are each accountable to God (Infinite Intelligence, Creator, Flying Spaghetti Monster) for our own actions and consequences in this life. Pay attention to your own life and actions. If you are living in accordance with the morals that feel authentic to you, good on ya. If someone else is not living in a way that is in accordance with your morals, why should you give a shit? It’s not your life to control.
Stop shaming others for who they are. STOP IT.
(REALLY DEEP BREATH)
3. Speaking of shaming, I had something had something happen back in January with a teacher I had worked with and respected immensely. She over-reacted to something I did and sent me the most scathing and shaming email I think I’ve ever received in my life. It felt like I got punched in the gut! As an emotional empath, I can feel someone’s emotions (should I be open at the time) as if they were my own with the same force and intensity. She was very angry when she sent this email and I read it at a time when I was feeling particularly vulnerable and the combination of the two sent me off a cliff. It stirred up just about every shameful cell I had going on in my body. Just horrible.
As someone who works with others in the most tender of areas, I would never, ever. ever, ever send an email like that. PERIOD. The damage it can do is enormous and as a teacher of divine spirituality, I’d have expected her to know that. I wrote back and apologized for my mis-step, taking ownership of it and sharing my thoughts about what happened. Her second email back was like a different person sent it. Almost as if the other email and all the energy along with it had never been sent. It was most confusing. ::BOGGLE::
Thing is, though: I earned that smack in the head.
I didn’t listen last year when my Guides suggested that I end my work with her. She gives a lot of information and I love information and I allowed myself to go chasing after that. In order to support me in stepping away from an influence that is no longer beneficial, the Universe helped bring about this situation. It hurt like a big dog, I won’t lie. But it got me to fully and completely step away from her and her influence. I cannot accept working with someone (whom I paid, no less!) who will treat me like that. I will not allow that in my life.
So, I got a situation where I had to step into owning that. I unsubbed from all her emails, her classes and pretty much stepped out of her Universe. We are no longer in vibratory harmony and that’s okay. She helped and supported me when I needed it, I paid her to do that and we are even on that score.
When you put others on a pedestal, watching them fall is hard. Harder still when they fall on you and you have to clean up the shards from it all. February was me, cleaning up the shards.
And now, onward.
Okay, just had to get that out. Thank you for listening!
What’s something up with which YOU shall not put?? Spill it in the comments!
“All the gays should be damned to hell!…and call me?”
Hate talk. I have many — MANY — weaknesses, but I never diss anyone based on race, sexuality or religion. Never, ever. And if you do it in front of me, I will bust you for it. Count on it.
Which leads me to wonder who decides what’s a curse word and what’s not. It’s OK to dismiss something frivolous as “gay,” yet you’re hostile if you call someone a “motherfucker.” People self identify as “gay” and are hurt when it’s used as a pejorative. No one wakes up in the morning, looks in the mirror and says, “I’m a proud motherfucker.” So calling someone “gay” is worse for the soul.
sounds stupid, but when your driving and you hang your arm with your lit cigarette out the window so you don’t stink up your car – well thanks. I don’t want your second hand smoke blowing in my window – i didn’t choose to pollute my lungs! thanks for your inconsideration to others…
You really think I didn’t see you speeding up beside me as I was waiting line to get thru this light? You think you are more important than I that you should be able to shove your car in front of me and the others who have been waiting for several lights to get thru? So when I don’t let you bud in You Honk your car horn and scream obscenities at me like I am in the wrong? Get a life. I love that my laughing at you only made you more angry. Manners apply to life period.
Are you not happy you are not the only snarky person out there?
We can go out for dinner one day and be a snarky party of two! :)
Sending love! Jenn
Awww Lisa that sucks about your teacher. You know how I feel about it though – take what is useful and back away from what isn’t. Seems like more and more these days we are each coming into our own voice, and have less to learn from others (as students) because it’s being handed to us. More like collaborators than students, maybe.
Not too much is getting me fired up, or I should say I am much calmer than I used to be when I butt up against it. It’s getting bigger and my reaction is getting smaller.