It’s back to YOPOE for me effective July 7th.
I thought they were going to mail me an offer letter and I could drag it out more; alas, no. They called today with an offer about $2000 more than I asked and a start date of July 7th. I had to say yes because the wheels on Duty’s employment bus are moving S L O W L Y.
1. When Duty does get a job, there’ll be surplus cash and I can then pay down some of my credit cards. I’ve been covering them all now but paying down faster would be nice.
2. I seem to do better when focused outside the house. Perhaps the dog-walking for 2 hours a week wasn’t enough. It remains to be seen.
3. I really do like my friends there and they like me. My phone was ringing off the hook when the news got around the office with people saying they’re happy the Minister of Fun is coming back. It’s always good for my ego.
1. When Duty does get a job, the doggies go back to doggie day care which is a bit spendy. I just don’t feel comfortable with them being in a crate all day. I know people do it but it makes me sad.
2. Dragging my ass out the door every day is gonna be a pain. Driving back home across that dag bridge every day in the summer (and especially on Friday!) is going to suck.
3. Less time to grow PI. Feh! Just when I’m getting it rocking!
1. Me! I have no clothes to wear to work! I stopped buying dressy work stuff. Grrr!
So, new adventures await.
Please keep a good thought for Duty. I tried not to show how bummed I was about this but he caught me and is taking it so so hard. I set all this in motion when I had that huge shift and it affected both of us in ways possibly-positive-but-hidden-at-the-moment.
Poor Duty! Why are straight men like this? You’re just doing for your *joint household* what he would do/has done were the situation reversed. They cause themselves so much unnecessary pain.
Try to enjoy the shopping. I always like buying new grownup workclothes better than wearing them. Especially if there’s a sale and I can concentrate on what I saved (rather than what I spent).
And hang in there. Once you get back into the old routine, it won’t hurt (so much).
Sending you and Duty love & hugs. I believe in all things happen for a reason!
Also – I got a spam pop up from coming to SP today – “a message from our sponsors” of sorts. Weird!
Thanks for the love and hugs, A! They do indeed happen for reasons we aren’t always privy to. I trust.
RE: the spam pop-up: I got that once the other day and had no idea what was going on. I googled it and couldn’t find anything specific on it. Hmmm – wonder what’s up??
I dunno! I’ve never seen that before.
There is a reason this has happened. Try your hardest to be zen and consider the flow of the river — your life — as something exciting to discover and understand. Of course, you KNOW this. You KNOW that there will be a hidden reason for this happening. You just have to wait until it becomes clear. One immediate thought: perhaps you’re meant to do this for your relationship with Duty, and Duty himself. Perhaps he needs you to do this. Perhaps in supporting your marriage with such dedication and love, you are showing him something important. Perhaps (dare I say it?) it’s the metaphor of how we show our love to each other — could it be that the extraordinary gift you’re handing to Duty is equal to the gift of woo?
Jody, I am open to all possibilities for why I manifested this answer to his layoff. I knew that my offering it would be akin to cutting my hair to buy his watch (while he sells his watch to get me ribbons for my hair) and it’s time for me to do this for whatever reason. I do trust that things will become clear as the days go by. (Thanks for your comments and thoughts. They are so appreciated.)